Here is wisdom from Joan Chittister's book Scarred by Struggle : Transformed by Hope.
"Struggle is always an invitation to a new life that, the longer it is resisted, the longer we fail to become who we are really meant to be.
The stories of people trapped in the past--the ones for whom the story of their past struggles has become the story of their present grief, their living anger, their unfinished definitions of themselves--are the stories of people who were never able to complete the cycle of liberation, the odyssey of hope."
Let God lead you through to the other side. Dare to complete the cycle. You will not walk alone.
Why the struggle? So that you may live as a free person, unbound by the injuries and failures of the past.