More About Love: Relationship Red Flags

Photo: (c) Deborah Evans 

As we say goodbye to Valentine's Day week, here are a few thoughts to help you evaluate your relationships. These thoughts are not just "red flags" (warnings), but can also be considered "white flags" (signs to walk away from or redirect non covenant relationships).

If you're in the beginning stages of a relationship, notice how someone handles disappointment or frustration -- large or small. This is an indicator of self control, emotional maturity, and problem solving skill. 

If you're mid stream in the relationship, acknowledge reality when someone cannot give or honestly accept an apology. If they can't or won't do both of these, you should slow down or redirect the relationship.

If you're planning long term, pay close attention to how this person values and invests in the other relationships in their life: family, work, business, school, neighbors, groups and clubs, etc. If someone does not appreciate the value of healthy relationships, that person will not continue to invest (long term) in a relationship or marriage with you.

Have a good week, dear ones!